A request to lose weight could very well be reasonable (depending on how it is approached). However, humiliation or emotional manipulation is not acceptable. This is what this whole debate is about, after all. And if you want to keep trying to convice us that humiliation is a viable tactic with a loved one, gotbeer, then go right ahead. I'm afraid you won't convince anyone of that. Unless, of course, it is yourself that you are trying to convince.....