I never argued for unconditional love. There are certainly conditions in relationships. And one of MY conditions for a relationship is that my partner respect me. Shaming or humiliating me into doing something is not respecting me; therefore, the relationship would not meet my conditions and I would be outta there. You may be different. To each his own.

And my point about the Smart case was that such a hyperbolic rhetorical question brings the entire argument to a farcical level and therefore leads nowhere.