I have a boyfriend who reassures me I am beautiful but whenever I am on top (if you know what I mean) I feel self-conscieous cuz my belly is showing and I know it isn't like those nice flat ones guys always see in magazines and tv. At least when I lay down it looks flatter! lol. But I need to be more confident but I also want to lose the belly. I have been with him for 4 years...I need to get over my fat. But it's what's inside of me that I am feeling and I don't think I can stop being self-conscious about it until I get it to be the way I want it to be.