mb99 your list was super helpful; you should write a book! All of you were very helpful in fact; I've printed out this entire thread. Well, I'm at least feeling like I'm doing some things right so far, but it was a good kick in the pants to see what I need to be aware of for the future. I so wish I'd been aware of LC'ing before she was born.
I may come back with more questions as I go along, but I really appreciate all your advice & experience.