This is a really good thread. That's what I like about this forum, it's a group therapy session except you don't have to worry about sitting in a circle in a skirt.

Sure, I've had my share of comments, both well intended and otherwise that should have made me decide to lose weight, but it was never a vanity issue with me and never hurt me enough to do anything about it. My husband would offer gentle suggestions only if I complained about some weight-related pain or limitation. There were the usual inconveniences: not being able to ride the rides at the amusement park, not fitting comfortably in a booth or airline seat, but that's all they were to me: inconveniences.

For me it was fear. I know people heavier than I who I guess are in much better shape but I got scared of listening to my heart pound while doing nothing and feeling like I was going to have a heart attack walking up or down the stairs.