Denise, a big hug for you. We lost a baby when I was 7 months pregnant. I'm telling you this to let you know that most men grieve in a different way then females. They go inward where we tend to be more verbal. It doesn't sound like Gary is shutting you out as much as it may be that he is grieving in his own way. Prayers & hugs to you both. Blessings, Maureen