You did a wonderful job of explaining your situation to us all.

Its funny but when I have any problem with hubby, I talk to him about him, like in the third person (like I'm talking to a friend) and ask him advice about the situation (as if its not us)

Try the same thing. Print out your post and read it to him and ask his advice on how to handle a husband who has always been supportive in the past, and yet when you have found a WOE that has increased the quality of YOUR life, he has become critical at meal times!

I guarantee he'll see things differently.