Only a handful of posts into this thread and I sense an overall feeling of angst over the tone of the original post.

Melinda, the most important thing for you is to understand two things:

• your goals are your own
• some relationships can be toxic to you, your goals and your outlook in general

Your husband should be supportive, and offering negative "encouragement" is his form of control. If he wants 120 pounds, let that be his goal, for Pete's sake. As cs_carver already asked, how perfect is he that he should set this type of requirement?

You need to be comfortable with who you are aside from him. His standards are high for you, it seems. Unfairly so.

Food can be toxic to your body. People can be toxic to a relationship. You need to know what's best for you and do it, not take suggestions from the Peanut Gallery.

If his goal is a model-perfect you, he's unrealistic. Tell him so and stick to what you want for yourself.