I know that my husband (who is not overweight) has been worried about my weight for years because he was afraid it would lead to my premature death. However, he wisely never pressured me to lose weight since he knew the decision would have to come from within me. He always assured me that he loved me and found me sexy no matter what I weighed. I am very grateful for this. I think that if he had pressured me to lose weight, I probably would not have done so but it would have definitely negatively impacted our relationship. I had to figure out what worked for me; no one else could lead me there.