Mel,
Just talk to him...remember he's a guy (sorry guys)...he may be doing it and not even realizing it...or if he is like most (including my DH)...he knows he's doing it, but doesn't think it's that big of a deal.

As I have gotten older, I have come to the conclusion that I thought my husband could read my mind...now I am specific...tactful...but very specific. My DH and I have been together for over 17 years, and just until the last year did I realize that he just didn't "get" the point, he wasn't being mean or didn't love me, he just didn't get it...now I make sure he does.


And if that doesn't work...do what I do....hold out on the "loving" and make him WORK for it!!