I seems like you need some new self talk. Ditch all that old stuff and teach yourself some new. Write it down and say it every day. Stick it on the bathroom mirror, the fridge, where ever you will see it, and say it. "I am capable of losing weight." "I will make smart choices to help me lose weight." "I will exercise daily." "I will forgive myself if I go over my carbs and go on from there." These are examples. Look at what you have posted and you will be able to come up with some of your own. You will be surprised at how effective it can be. Good luck!