I think it's a meet half way kind of thing. I will make requests to leave off the potatoes or other carby foods, but I never ask for extra whatever to make up for it. If the restaurant gives me extra veges or salad, that's great and I make sure I thank them very much.

In the same vein, if I had gone to that chef's restaurant and asked to have the potato left off my plate and she refused, I would not have stayed for the meal. Her attitude is ridiculous. And the other example of leaving the peanuts off the dessert, that's just mean. The customer could not help their allergy to peanuts, and I'm sure the dessert would not have suffered without them. If the dessert had been pre-prepared, then it is up to the waiter or chef to explain that. For someone who is allergic to peanuts, it is not enough to scrape them off. The residue is there and is still dangerousl.

;-Deb