any girls who are losing weight for a guy?hey
 

hey guys! i noe its wrong, but theres this guy i really really like and when he stared going out with someone i thought for some reason that maybe if i wasnt chubby he wouldve likes me, because we talked a lot and i sat next to him in some classes. now that im determined to lose weight, i feel bad because i am mostly only losing the weight because i like him so much. anyone else out there who feels like that?

Im no girl ( :lol: ), but I have to admit I initially started to lose weight partly because of a guy I had a thing for at the time. I quickly forgot about them, and I started doing it for myself. Hopefully you will to because it can be a very unhealthy way of thinking. Sorry just coming from experience from a person that has struggled with eating disorders that were triggered by similar things in my past. HTH.

I'm not losing to IMPRESS a guy... I am trying to lose because I had gained almost 40lbs since the last time I saw my boyfriend in October (he lives in GA)... I dont want to feel horrible when he is here (exspecially since it's been SOOO long). I just want to look at least the same as I did when he left, lol.

Even though I know he wouldn't care :)

That's the wrong path to be going down. It's cheesy, but believe me, you would much rather like to have a guy who loves they way you are right now. Any jerk that is gonna date a girl because she lose a few lbs doesn't even deserve a second look. Not to mention people have their preferences, would you go out and get a nosejob, boobjob, gain forty lbs in order to get a guy to like you? Doubt it. Looks are important but they aren't everything, the relations based on them are generally pretty pethetic and shallow.

for your height your at 118 lbs is certainly not chubby.if any boy thinks that you are hes wrong and you need not lose weight quickly at any stand point.it is not good for your health.

Please be smart about your weight and don't function on someone else's approval!!!!

oh there is no way i would lose too much weight or do anything stupid for a guy bc i dont care that much...i want to lose a few pounds anyway, not just for him, i was just in a bad mood when i wrote that. sorry! and thanks! i

i have to admit tht one of the reasons i want to lose weight is to get more attention from guys,but guys who are ONLY interested in how u look should just be kicked to the curb :]

well....I'm an 18yo man and I'm engaged so....no need for that! lol....I guess I am kind-of losing for the oposite sex though, maybe if I feel better about my image it would be easier to get along with my fiancee...it feels like its fight after fight...koodos to all you singal people! lol
I workout everyday too though so...it's more than just weight loss to me.

If a guy wasn't interested in me because of my weight, he can feel free to do something to himself that's probably anatomically impossible. :o

Like me or leave me. :) If you hit the door, you weren't the right guy for me anyway.





Just some thoughts from an older person.

I love what Kris S said....thats great!!! I agree, men can be jerks...I know...I am one (a guy that is...)

When I was younger, I used to diet to impress this guy I had a thing for. It was stupid really. Yes, he was only interested in the girls who were ridiculously thin, and I liked him, and I thought he was worth it.

Right! Any guy that is worthy of me will accept me how I am. That guy was a jerk. I was just too smitten to realize it. I have a great guy now who loves me just how I am, and is proud of how I'm losing weight for myself.

If losing weight makes you feel more confident, then go for it. Trust me, being happy with yourself radiates a lot more attractiveness (to the "good" guys) than a couple of pounds of weight loss.

Kris, I've had the same attitude since high school but more along the lines of, "What you see is what you get. If you don't like what you see, get steppin". ;)

On a more serious note, people are attracted to each other for a whole range of reasons, appearance only being one, and not everyone in the world is going to fall in love with you no matter how good you look.
Trust me, the wrapping on the package is a lot less important than what's inside. ;)

I have to agree with Kris and Lisa. I think it has to do with age, wisdom and maturity. As you go thru life I would hope that you reach an age of wisdom where you realize that it really isn't about the "fat". If a man (or whoever) is unable to accept you at that moment as you are--what makes you think that he will be more accepting if you are thin (?) and the more important question--why would you want someone so superficial as to only accept you when you are "thin". Not the kind of person I want to be in a relationship with when the tough gets going.

I love being in my forties--I don't even give that kind of stuff a second thought.

Lose the weight for you and for the right reasons, not for a "guy" (or gal).

Lisa

Hi, first time posting in the teen section.

I haven't lost weight for a guy, but I suppose indirectly I have. Like, I want to look good in general to be more confident about dating and such.


It's soo true people like you for who you are.

Example, I totally was infatuated with this guy a few years ago.

We lost touch, and when I saw him again he was almost up to 300 lbs (at 6'4" mind you).

But I still like him, simply because of who he is.

I have only started on my weight loss journry, but i have always had a lot of dates, more i think because i am a happy person, with a great smile. I do not judge my men be their weight either, because their thoughts, feelings, interests, and personality are the important things, i do not base feelings on looks, because i am hoping to find the man i will spend my life with, and how many hot 90 year olds do you know, :lol: I want someone who will love me if i go grey, love me if i wrinkle up, love me when i get false teeth, or through anything else that happens, and I want to be there for him too, no matter what.

I have been a "big girl" for most of my life. I was chunky as a child, stout as a teen, and in my late teens, early 20s, I lost a lot of weight and met a man who only cared about what I looked like. He gave me 2 children, never bothered to marry me, cheated on me non stop, gave me several black eyes, and eventually shot me in a drunken rage. I then spent 8 years alone, raising my kids, healing, and gaining weight. Then I met another man. I weighed 275lbs. He loves me for who I am, and says I am beautiful. We have been together now for nearly 10 years. In a few months, we will have been married for 3. I have found that I don't have to be skinny to be loved...I just wanna see my feet again.

I Am A Gurl Who Is Losing Weight For My Boyfriend He Says He Doesnt Want Me To And All But I Feel Bad When I Go Around Him Because He Is A Toothpick And Preppy And All His Friend Are Too They All Say I Dont Need To But I Feel Weird Around Them And All I Hate That Feeling If Anyone Who Feeels That Way I Do To

I am losing weight to make myself feel better. I have been in a relationship for 2 years and my bf says he doesn't think I need to, but since we started dating I have gained 25 lbs. I know deep down he will be happy when that weight comes off and I will be too! I will have more self confidence.

same here.

ditto =] but now it's for vain ole me :)

of course it doesn't hurt when they tell you you grew hotter/sexier, but after a while it's so you know, like it doesn't matter, because it's all about yourself now.. not so sure if you know what I mean mm

Me Too! Kinda Sorta...
 

Hey! I mean, I guess its wrong to lose weight jst for a guy, but I sort of am too. There's this guy at my school (I'm a junior) and freshman and sophmore year I didn't really know him. But this year, we have 3 classes together! I'm taking 6 classes and I think he's taking 5, so I'm in more than half of his classes. He's just the nicest guy. BTW, he almost always initiates the conversation. And he always comes to talk to me in the library outside of class. So, I definitely want to lose weight because, frankly, I'm just not comfortable making a move at this weight. But its not just for him. And its a long way off, but there is no one I would rather go to prom with!

well... i gotta say our generation is definately a vain generation. looking nice helps a lot socially and in other areas, too. and it sucks, because things shouldn't be this way, but they are.

i'm not really losing weight for a guy. he made me happy enough to be able to do it on my own, but I am mainly doing it because I will feel better once it's done, and because it is something I have always wanted to do.

im not losing for a guy - im losing for me BUT losing for me includes liking attention i get from guys when i thinner. so i dunno.

think again

way off, it has nothing to do with vanity and everything to do with natural selection, we're genetically programmed to like prettier more fit people, thats how nature keeps the species from becoming a midget blubber parade

think about it, if guys liked fat ugly girls as much as pretty skinny girls... i shudder to think what would become of us in 10 generations..AKA things SHOULD be this way

One of the biggest reasons is I want to ask out this girl but I didn't think that I'd have a good chance. My goal is 210 and I think I'll ask then. At the rate I've been going that should be by the beginning of April.

I agree. I don't think there's anything wrong with people who are strictly attracted to healthy, fit, attractive people. Even when it comes to choosing my friends...I enjoy being around people who make me want to try harder and look/be my best.

Then again...what *I* consider to be attractive might be shocking to some!LOL!!! :lol:

Read my journal as well. I am looking for responses.

I am trying to lose weight for myself as well as to get the attention of some girls. However I do agree that it is wrong.

I also thought you girls would enjoy this link...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rJ9IPZLPGr4

(It is safe for work)