Compliments Anyone?
 

So it's been very frustrating to lose this weight and have no one notice! Not a single person! I have lost almost 22 lbs. and I know I am heavy (have another 50 to go), but you'd think someone would say something?

Went to a birthday party last week and a bridal shower and yes there were people there that I had not seen in a while...but not a whisper or question or look!

So what this means is: I gained MORE WEIGHT since the last time I had seen them (probably true) and by losing the weight to them I look my normal, albeit, chubby self!

The good news is I NO LONGER CARE! I know I am getting smaller. Got a roll of film back the other day...pics from our anniversary in January. There I am all dolled up and my face and body are huge....I look bloated with triple chins (think Ursula in The Littel Mermaid :lol: ). DH and I look at each other....nope he says, you don't look like that anymore...your face is way slimmer (oh yes I did go on Atkins to lose weight on my face...didn't you know? ha ha).

Went shopping today for dress for that upcoming wedding...and I actually fit into a 16 woman's petite...I asked for a bigger size before trying it on....next size was a 22. I also brought that into the changeroom...but lo and behold, the 16 actually fit!!!! And will of course fit even better in a few weeks! Of course I bought it .....on sale and an additional 40% off, how could I resist. Need to model it for DH and decide if I shall keep it!

I will get a pic of me in the new dress and try to scan both pics in!

Froufie

That is fantastic! I am sorry you have no one "in real life" to compliment you, but I will compliment you: 22lb lost is a wonderful achievement. Visualize it as 22lb of Crisco - that is a heck of a lot of fat!

And you can fit in a 16, petite's. That is great too, being smaller is even better than weighing less, and you have both.

Good job!

My compliments to you as well - sometimes people are just so busy worrying how THEY look that they really don't notice - not to worry they soon surely will - you will WOW them in that new dress. Congrats on the smaller size!

Congratulations on your weight loss! 22 lbs. is quite an achievement!! I know your DH is soooo proud of you. I have the same problem though. I have lost 42 lbs. and no one even says anything. Now mind you, they had plenty to say before I lost weight...my in-laws go on and on about how much my DH has lost (50 lbs.) but all they say to me is Ahem..."Well gee Lori, you sure aren't losing very fast are you?" Uggggggh! Makes me crazy but what can you do? Anyway, we are all proud of you here on the forum and you just keep up the good work!

Froufie,

Even after 20 pounds gone my primary care physician asked why I hadn't lost as much weight as my DH. How totally annoying ... :rolleyes:

I've switched Doc's, lost another ten and still trying to know that I will be the same at 145 or 158 ... but it is hard!!

You're doing great - but try not to get too hung up on the numbers.

Ever Onward,

Holly

Hi Froufee:

You just wait until you hit your goal girl and watch those jaws drop to the floor when you walk in... count on it. mad

Froufie - you 've done great. don't let others gt you down. people only notice so-called bad things.. like wrinkles, gray hair, fat, food in between your teeth, etc. it's just the way people are.

Don't worry about what others think... You have done a wonderful job and you should be proud- Congratulations

I had the same "problem" at first. However, the thing people noticed BEFORE they noticed any weight loss, was the cahnge in my "attitude". I became more confident and less embarassed.

As long as your seeing the results, the way you "carry" yourself will change, and that's what people will notice.

And, BTW, CONGRATSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Its funny how people can tell when you put on weight.They become visual scale experts.Today I got my first complement from some one who see me about every two weeks and if you look at my profile I have'nt lost as much as you.The point I will make is "do it for your self "not for anyone else. Keep up the good work! Oh ya,is this a diet or a WOE,because if its WOE you have all the time in the world.

Congratulations!! And please, on please, post the picture of you looking great dressed for the wedding.

As far as the others go...is it possible they were trying to be polite and not comment on weight at all? I know my thin family drives me crazy when they haven't seen me in awhile and say "oh, you must have lost weight", when I absolutely haven't. Wish they would just politely keep quiet.

Anyway, live for you!!!

Froufie...keep up the great work!!!!
 

I have been treated the same way as you...I was losing weight and hardly no-one noticed. Even at 25 pounds nobody hardly said anything. Then when I got my loss into the 30's the compliments started coming and now I am at 43 pounds gone and some days I live off of the compliments! Remenber no matter what anyone says...If you are losing...You are winning! :agree: this is a tough job for all of us but we are all winners :wiggle:

I'm proud of you! I can relate to what you are talking about. My family can definitely tell, but I have yet to have ONE person at work say I've lost weight. UGGH! I want to jack-slap them and say I've lost 26 pounds, damnit!

Dont lose weight for other people, do it for yourself!!!! Although, it sounds vain, it really does feel good to hear compliments. Your hard work is going to pay off, fuck the rest of the world, its all about you. :)

Way to go. keep your spirits high and before you know it. People will be looking and then they will want to know your secret. lol and you will be ahead of them and closer to your goal.:)

Froufie,

First of all, :bhug:, a big hug from all of us, I'm sure!

People who've never had a problem with their weight just don't understand how hard it is to lose...they simply cannot relate!

Keep up the good work, hold your head up, and just wait till you're at goal...then watch their eyebrows shoot up!

60s

Good subject! I lost 30 lbs and didn't hear anything from anyone.....until I finally had to go out and buy a new size 12 wardrobe (had been in a snug 16). THEN the compliments starting pouring in.

It's important to rememebr too that with close friends who see you daily, or coworkers, spouses ect, they just notice you not the weight. It takes someone commenting, seeing you at a certain angle or something for it to click that hey, she's lost weight.

It's the same for my kids. With my son he always looks the same ot me, although others may say how big he's getting. Then one day I'll see him standing next to something, or getting on his bike and I'm just floored at how much taller he's gotten then the last time he stood there or so on. I see him every day though so the gradual changes aren't as noticable.

Hang in there, you're doing great, and people will notice, just give them time.



Um, duh. The doctor was male, right? Men can almost always lose faster then women, thanks to a wonderful thing called estrogen. Our bodies like ot hang on to that extra insulation just in case we're in a baby making mode :)




Um, sounds like a bit of hostility. Did you take thier baby boy away from them? :)

All I can say as a person that use to be skinny and also use to be fat, then skinny, then fat then skinny etc...sometimes people don't want to say anything for fear that you really haven't lost. sometimes 20lbs isn't drastic enough to calm the fears of the complementor. I didn't hear any compliments until I lost 30lbs and most of those were from people that knew I was on Atkins. My advice is to feel good becasue you know you are losing and if you get any compliments from anyone, great!! otherwise, I'm sure they notice and are just too scared to say anything.

Yay For You!
 

Well, we here can certainly appreciate a 20 pound weight loss! That is wonderful! I'll bet those would be the same people that wouldn't notice a drastic haircut or haircolor change either! I've lost 15 pounds, gone from semi-blonde to dark auburn and only my doctor's nurse noticed I had lost weight when she was examining me (no clothes, just that sheet thingy). Have you bought any new clothes yet? Maybe they would notice if you wore something a little more fitted to show off your loss? My old clothes are baggy, and don't really show my loss, I'm waiting to lose as much as you before shopping!

Don't beat yourself, everyone notices they just don't say anything.

I had the same experience. I mentioned the lack of comments to a close friend who told me that lots of people were asking her if I was alright because I was looking so thin. Then out of the blue, an aquaintence says, "I didn't recognize you from over there, you are not as big as you were".

Beyond that, the silence continues even though it is clearly impossible to not notice the difference.

What kills me is that I know other people want to loose weight and nobody asks. Like any good low-carber I'm happy to go on and on about it, given the chance.

Wow...THANKS for all the great responses and wonderful support - truly awesome.

Glad to see I am not alone in this phenomenon, and I guess for now I will have to the best judge and chief "complimenter" of my progress.

I am actually in no rush, and will do this as long as it takes. I am hoping once I get closer to 30 lbs gone and fit into my "old" new clothes, people will notice.

The true test will be my work colleague/team mate. He has gone on parental leave for six weeks, back on Sept 8th...if he doesn't say ANYTHING.....I will be very disappointed!

Will keep you posted. And congrats to all of you as well, keep up the good work!

Froufie