what do you tell people when they ask you..
 

how much weight you've lost??
I have to lose a total of > 100 lbs and don't really want to tell people because I guess I'm ashamed of how far I let myself go before I did anything. I've lost >35 and everyone comments and asks. I know they're trying to be friendly and supportive and when I tell them I don't want to say exact numbers, I feel that I've insulted them or something.
Does anyone have a good reply?

Thanks

When people ask me if I lost weight I usually say "I've lost some but not where I want to be."

or the classic one would be "no you've just gained weight so I look smaller"


:)

I just say.....


I dont know....I have been watching what I eat and exercising lately...guess I am toning up.

When people ask me how much I've lost I proudly say 60 lbs and 10 to go. Don't feel ashamed. What you have done is nothing short of fantastic. You earned the privilege to tell others that there is a weight lose program the truly works. You are walking proof. You might even inspire someone. Kudos to you. You are doing a great job.

I hate talking numbers too. I dont want to say Ive dropped a size because i am in a 20 now-not much to brag about when you are talking to a size 2.

I hope to get down to a brag-able weight in a year. Only people who saw me at my heaviest notice any difference. Just smile and move conversation on....

ALWAYS be proud of your accomplishments!!! Regardless of who you are talking to (and what size they are).

I know what you mean. I should be proud of the weight that I've lost, but I'm embarrassed about how much I weigh, thus how much I have to lose. Yep, it's something I need to work on.

I usually say something like "Less than I need to and more than I care to admit". It seems to lighten the mood and the point is taken that it's not something I want to be a topic of conversation. However, if the person that I'm talking to is overweight or seems sincerely interested, I talk about what I'm doing and how successful it has been for me. My hope is that it will encourage them to lose weight, get healthy, and feel better.

If you really don't want to talk numbers, I guess theres no harm in just thanking them for the compliment, and moving on to a new subject.

Personally, I just go right on ahead and brag! It's taken me almost two years to get this far, and I appreciate the "pat on the back" once in a while. I have a long way to go, and sometimes I need the ego boost to keep me on the "straight and narrow" :angel:

Don't be ashamed of where you were, just be proud that you're taking charge and improving yourself, no matter WHAT size!

Don't feel compelled to be specific. Just say thank you - I'm happy it's noticable. Or 'thank you - it's coming along.'

Make them feel good for saying something and you need not refer to your goal - just your progress.

You are doing well. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

:wiggle:

tofi, I think I'll use your approach. I don't want to be mean to them because I know they're happy for me, but I don't want to be specific either.

I am mostly a shy person but for some reason I got blabbing around constantly about my diet! I am proud that I am getting healthy and I want to shout it to the world. Don't be ashamed! :yay:

I sometimes talk about how much better I feel, or I say that I'm getting into clothes I haven't worn for years. But most of the time I just say how many pounds I've lost--I figure everybody could see how fat I was before, anyway. One thing I won't do, though, is talk about how much I want to lose, and I won't tell people how much I weigh. (This is because I always get an argument about it. The other person goes, "OMG! I can't BELIEVE you weigh THAT MUCH!") After about the third time this happened in a public place--and everyone looked--I decided never again to answer the question, "How much do you weigh?"

Emily

I'm with Emily, I'll happily tell people how much I've lost but there's no way I'm telling them my start or goal weights or even my current weight, that's too personal to me (she says with the numbers right here on this forum lol).

Anyone looking at me can tell that I need to lose so when they ask or tell me that I look good I say thank you I have lost 50lbs and I have about 50 more to go. I am extremely proud of the 50 and I want to tell everyone. I would never tell them what I was or what I am currently!! :)

that's what I'm talking about! :)
once you say you've lost 50 and have 50 to go (basically my situation) --then they can figure the average thin woman is 120-140 and they know the start weight.
These are people who I see often, and they remember the last weight, so if they ask, and I say a couple pounds, then they say.. oh you mean like 3x pounds??? So I don't like them keeping track either. And you know how relatives are.. they all talk about it. At least mine, this is the first serious weight loss for me.

I don't mind telling strangers.

tell'em in your own words
 

You can always tell them you're about 30% there! I wouldn't have to know anything about how much a person had weighed, weighed now or wanted to weight in order to feel excited about the progress they had made.

I tell people what I've lost, and I often have a flicker of fear that I might see in their eyes "oh my god, she must have been SO big!" but so far everyone's just been thrilled. Just remember how many so-called thin people find it impossible to lose weight, so anyone who is managing to do so, no matter how heavy they started, will probably earn respect.

Gez

I tell people the LBS I've lost but I never tell them how much I weigh.

Don't worry about people figuring out how much the average woman weighs and then figuring how much you weighed. Be proud of your accomplishment and if anyone DARES :nono: to say something snide about your beginning weight just respond "Yup, huge accomplishment - not many can attest to that!"

I have had people actually argue with me. My boss said the other day, You did not weight 220 and you did not have 60 pounds to lose. I said, I did weight 220 and I did lose 60 pounds. He said I can not believe it. I said suit yourself. Then I turned and went back to my desk.

I am a little guilty about this
 

I admit, I don't post my beginning-beginning Pre-Atkins weight for fear my husband will one day look at my profile. When I originally started Atkins (over 6 years ago), I weighed 217 pounds. I lost down to 175 and was wearing a size 10-12. That is when I met my husband. I have told him I had lost a lot of weight before we met, but he has NO IDEA. I feel like this is my business! After a lot of surgeries last year, and a few minor ones this year, a little of the weight has crept back up. I feel like since I have maintained most of my weight loss, now is the time to go for it all! I know Atkins works, and I can't wait til the rest of the weight is gone!